Kindness is one of the small, everyday steps that can help protect your mental health. It’s part of “Give” – one of 8 ways you can look after your wellbeing.
This page is about the small, everyday acts of kindness we can show ourselves and others.
Why kindness matters
Research from the Mental Health Foundation suggests that kindness isn’t just a feeling – it’s made up of simple, everyday moments: thinking about other people’s feelings, treating people with respect, and trying to behave fairly towards them.
Kindness also works both ways. Many people find that being kind to others can improve their own sense of wellbeing, while being kind to yourself can help look after your self-esteem and sense of who you are, especially when things are hard.
Kindness doesn’t have to take a lot of time, money or energy. Sometimes a small gesture, a message, or a kinder thought towards yourself is enough.
Be kind to yourself
Being kind to yourself means treating yourself with the same care and understanding you might offer someone you care about.
- Notice your inner voice today. Would you say those words to a friend?
- Remind yourself of one thing you’ve done well recently, however small.
- Make time to rest, even if it’s only for a few minutes.
- Eat something nourishing and drink enough water.
- Set boundaries that protect your time, energy, and wellbeing.
If you’re having a difficult time, it’s okay if looking after yourself is the main thing you can manage right now. Your wellbeing matters, and it’s often the best place to start.
Be kind to others
However small, kindness to others can make a real difference – to them, and to you.
- Send a message to check in on someone you haven’t spoken to in a while.
- Say thank you to someone who’s helped you.
- Really listen when someone is talking to you, without planning what to say next.
- Offer to help with something practical, even something small.
- Be patient with someone who’s having a hard day.
If you’d like to give more of your time on a regular basis, volunteering can be one way to do that, and many people find it benefits their own wellbeing too.
Be kind to the world around you
Kindness can reach beyond the people you know.
- Pick up a bit of litter on your walk.
- Support a local business, charity, or community group in a way that works for you.
- Share something positive with your neighbours or community.
- Think about one small change you could make that’s kinder to the environment.
Make it a habit
Some people find kindness is most helpful when it becomes a regular part of everyday life, rather than a one-off.
- You might like to pick one small kind act – for yourself or someone else – and see if it feels helpful to try to do it every day this week.
- Notice what kindness feels like when you receive it, as well as when you give it.
- Keep a note of small kindnesses you notice, give, or receive. It’s a good thing to look back on.
Other ways to support your wellbeing
Kindness is one of the 8 ways to wellbeing. It can work alongside other small steps that support your wellbeing:
- Take notice – noticing the present moment and what’s around you.
- Relax and try to sleep well – giving your mind space to rest.
- Keep moving – looking after your body.
Where to get support
If you’re struggling and need more than self-care tips, MindWell can help you find the right support in Leeds.
Last updated: July 2026